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Social Anxiety: Common Thoughts and Tips to overcome them



Social anxiety is a common type of anxiety disorder characterized by a persistent fear of social situations and interactions. People with social anxiety may experience intense fear, self-consciousness, and embarrassment in social situations, leading them to avoid social situations altogether. Here are some common thoughts associated with social anxiety and tips for overcoming them:

  1. "Everyone is judging me."

People with social anxiety often worry that others are judging them negatively. This can lead to self-consciousness, avoidance of social situations, and feelings of low self-esteem.


To overcome this thought, try to focus on the positive aspects of yourself and the situation. Challenge negative self-talk by asking yourself if there is any evidence to support the thought that everyone is judging you. Remember that most people are not judging you as harshly as you think, and even if they are, their opinions do not define your worth as a person.

  1. "I'm going to embarrass myself."

People with social anxiety often worry that they will say or do something embarrassing in social situations. This can lead to avoidance of social situations and feelings of shame and embarrassment.


To overcome this thought, try to focus on the present moment and be mindful of your thoughts and feelings. Challenge negative self-talk by asking yourself if there is any evidence to support the thought that you will embarrass yourself. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and it is okay to make mistakes in social situations. Try to approach social situations with a sense of curiosity and openness, rather than fear and judgment.

  1. "I'm not good enough."

People with social anxiety often struggle with feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. This can lead to avoidance of social situations and difficulty forming relationships.


To overcome this thought, try to focus on your strengths and accomplishments. Challenge negative self-talk by asking yourself if there is any evidence to support the thought that you are not good enough. Remember that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and it is okay to have areas that need improvement. Try to approach social situations with a sense of self-compassion and acceptance, rather than self-criticism and judgment.

  1. "I don't belong here."

People with social anxiety often feel like they don't belong in social situations, leading to feelings of isolation and loneliness.


To overcome this thought, try to focus on your shared interests and experiences with others. Challenge negative self-talk by asking yourself if there is any evidence to support the thought that you don't belong. Remember that everyone has unique qualities that make them valuable and worthy of connection. Try to approach social situations with a sense of curiosity and openness, rather than fear and judgment.


Social anxiety can be a challenging and distressing experience, but it is possible to overcome it with the right treatment and support. The above are general tips on approaching these thoughts but is a long journey to overcome them. If you or someone you know is struggling with social anxiety, it is important to seek professional help from a mental health professional who specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders. With the right treatment and support, it is possible to overcome social anxiety and live a fulfilling and connected life. Get in touch if you want to learn more.

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